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| Preface | |
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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Make Peace with the Past: The First Principle | |
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| What Every Good Parent Wants | |
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| Connect to the Power of Your Memories | |
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| Sort Out Your Issues | |
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| Look for Positives | |
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| Unpack the Baggage from Your Parents' Divorce | |
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| Listen Carefully to the Voices on Your Message Tape | |
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| Erase the Negative Messages | |
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| Reassess Your Parenting Approach | |
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| Talk to Your Children about Your Past | |
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| Living the First Principle | |
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| Make Peace with Your Partner: The Second Principle | |
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| Getting in Sync | |
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| How Is Your Parent-to-Parent Relationship Affecting Your Child? | |
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| Do You Believe That Mother Knows Best? | |
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| Do You Think That Father Knows Best? | |
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| Are You Divided by Spiritual Faith? | |
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| Is Your Parenting Style Competitive? | |
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| Are You "Parallel Parenting"? | |
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| Are You Ever the Martyr? | |
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| Do You Sabotage Your Partner? | |
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| Are You the Insecure Teammate? | |
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| Are You Divorced or Separated? | |
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| Are You the Parent Who Works a Lot? | |
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| How Compassionate Are You? | |
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| Do You Know How to Give and Take Criticism? | |
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| When to Seek Professional Help | |
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| Living the Second Principle | |
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| Communicate Compassionately: The Third Principle | |
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| Couple Communication Skills | |
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| Understand Your Different Communication Styles | |
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| Master the Art of Assertive Communication | |
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| Seven Golden Rules of Communication | |
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| What Your Children Are Telling You | |
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| Family Communication Skills | |
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| Teaching Children to Listen | |
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| Encouraging Compassionate Communication | |
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| Living the Third Principle | |
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| Reach Out to Your Village: The Fourth Principle | |
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| The Team Beyond Your Doorstep | |
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| How to Ask for Help | |
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| Rediscover Your Village | |
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| Reach Out to Extended Family Members | |
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| Reach Out to Friends | |
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| Reach Out to Your Community | |
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| Reach Out to Your Religious Leader | |
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| Reach Out to Your Child's School | |
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| School Is Not for Moms Only | |
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| Reach Out at Work | |
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| Living the Fourth Principle | |
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| Direct Your Child's Behavior: The Fifth Principle | |
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| The Goals of Positive Discipline | |
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| Are You a Good Model of the Behavior You Want for Your Child? | |
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| Eleven Easy Rules for More Positive Discipline | |
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| What to Expect at Every Age | |
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| Are You and Your Partner on the Same Discipline Team? | |
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| What's Your Personal Discipline Style? | |
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| What's Your Team Discipline Style? | |
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| Eight More Winning Discipline Techniques | |
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| Handling the "Problem" Child | |
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| When to Seek Professional Help | |
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| The Gender Factor | |
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| Negative Lessons of Physical Punishment | |
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| Time-out for Parents | |
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| Living the Fifth Principle | |
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| Nurture the Sibling Bond: The Sixth Principle | |
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| The Positive Side of Rivalry | |
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| How Does Sibling Rivalry Get Started? | |
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| The Role of Age Differences | |
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| How Do Your Children Actually Get Along? | |
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| When to Seek Professional Help | |
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| Seven Recommendations for Reducing Rivalry | |
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| Growing Away from Rivalry | |
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| The Trap of Favoritism: Try Not to Make It Worse | |
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| Embrace Your Stepchildren | |
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| Eleven Ways to Strengthen the Sibling Bond | |
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| Living the Sixth Principle | |
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| Acknowledge Peer Pressure: The Seventh Principle | |
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| The Power of Peer Pressure | |
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| How Peer Pressure Starts | |
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| Handling Peer Pressure at Every Age | |
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| The Gender Factor | |
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| Dealing with Prejudice and Interracial Friendships | |
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| Dealing with Sex | |
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| Dealing with Violence and Aggression | |
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| Separating Out Your Feelings from Your Child's Feelings | |
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| Teaching Your Child about Friendship and Fitting In | |
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| Guiding Children toward More Positive Relationships | |
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| Relating to Your Child's Friends | |
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| How to Talk about Peer Pressure with Your Child | |
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| Giving Your Child Basic Communication Tools | |
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| When You Should Worry | |
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| How to Handle Passing Fads | |
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| Defining Positive Role Models | |
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| Living the Seventh Principle | |
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| Allow Time for Spirituality and Joy: The Eighth Principle | |
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| Draw from Spirituality | |
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| Acknowledge Your Family's Spiritual Needs | |
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| "Mixed" Partnerships | |
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| Ten Ways to Teach Your Children about Faith | |
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| Simple Spiritual Messages for Children | |
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| Simple Religious Messages for Children | |
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| Simple Fun | |
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| What's the Rush? Slow Down | |
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| Set Aside Parent Time | |
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| The Value of Family Meetings | |
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| Learn to Manage Anger Together | |
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| Celebrations and Reunions: The Power of Making Memories Together | |
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| Living the Eighth Principle | |
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| Index | |