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| Introduction | |
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| Anger: The Real Story | |
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| Why Everyone Tries to Avoid Anger | |
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| Rage: The Real Culprit | |
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| How to Tell the Difference between Anger and Rage | |
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| Soft Rage | |
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| The Five Things People Do When They Think They Are Expressing Healthy Discontent | |
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| Four Styles of Rage | |
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| Enraged or Outraged? | |
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| Emotional Regression: The Secret Behind Anger and Rage | |
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| The Brain and Regression | |
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| Emotional Regression: A "Present-Person/People Eraser" | |
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| Three Directions of Relationships and Regression | |
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| Other Potential Regressors | |
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| Preconditions for Regression | |
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| Signs of Regression | |
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| Passivity: The Hidden Producer of Rage | |
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| Two Types of Adult Passivity | |
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| Three Types of Passivity in Children | |
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| How to Identify Passivity in Yourself | |
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| Signs of Problems with Passivity | |
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| Passivity and Rage | |
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| Fear of the Word Passivity | |
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| Living Vicariously | |
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| Solution and Cures for Passivity | |
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| The Detour Method: The Only Tool You Need | |
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| How TDM Identifies and Works with the Causes of Regression | |
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| The Six Questions in TDM Process | |
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| The Detour Method and Boundaries, Limits, Anger, and Rage | |
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| Why TDM Will Work for You | |
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| What Happens When the Detour Is Not Taken | |
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| Doing What It Takes to Come Out of Anger, Rage, and Regression | |
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| Five Keys to Bring You Back to the Present Moment | |
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| Anger Work You Can Do at Home or in the Office | |
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| Emotional Release and Discharge | |
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| Other Ways to Discharge and Release | |
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| Dropping the Anger and Rage and Becoming Compassionately Assertive | |
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| "I" Statements | |
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| The Compassionate Assertive Constitution | |
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| Completing the Four Compassionate Assertive Statements | |
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| The 5+5+5 Exercise for Increasing Clarity and Compassionate Assertiveness | |
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| Anger and Emotional Intelligence | |
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| Final Thoughts | |
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| How to Contact the Author | |
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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Further Suggested Reading | |
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| Index | |