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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Introduction: Love, Fidelity, and Happiness | |
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| The Sexification and Desexification of Relationships | |
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| Losing Our Collective Virginity | |
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| One-Night Stands | |
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| Why Dating Is Fun | |
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| The Days Before You Could Pick the Smell of His Farts Out of a Lineup | |
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| Finding Compatibility With Him-In and Out of Bed | |
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| The Good-on-Paper Guy | |
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| Cultivating Chemistry | |
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| Great Expectations | |
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| Out of the Box | |
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| Myths and Truths about Saving Yourself | |
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| For Those of You Who Have Done Dallas | |
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| Staying Monogamous ... and Trusting Him To | |
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| Pookie vs. Snookums | |
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| Making a Man(tain) out of a Mole(hill) | |
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| The Importance of Being Honest | |
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| When Harry Met Sally | |
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| Fantasies and Crushes | |
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| Setting the Rules | |
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| Road Maps Back from Betrayal-Land | |
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| Close the Open Book (If You Want Him to Write in It) | |
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| Teaching Him ... and Letting Him Teach You | |
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| Put On Your Own Oxygen Mask Before Assisting Other Passengers | |
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| Getting Serious | |
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| Why It's Harder to Enjoy Yourself Now Than It Was in the Beginning | |
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| The Elusive Orgasm | |
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| Sexy Teacher Outfits ... on the TV Screen | |
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| When the Day-to-Day Gets in the Way | |
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| Your Own Private Island | |
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| Fold Laundry, Do It, Write Dissertation, Walk Snuggles | |
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| The Flirtation Situation | |
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| The Art of the Arousal | |
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| The Blue Lagoon | |
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| Birth Control and Other Smart Decisions | |
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| HIV Test + The Pill = Commitment? | |
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| The Battle Between Pills and Rubbers-Who Will Reign Supreme? | |
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| A Birth Control Refresher Course | |
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| What's Up, Doc? | |
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| Helping Condoms to Take Back the Power | |
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| Saying No | |
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| Identifying Problems-and Solving Them For Good | |
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| Spicing It Up | |
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| It's Not You; It's Me | |
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| It's Not You; It's Him | |
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| When It's Both of You | |
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| The Last First Kiss | |
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| Trying New Things: Games, Toys, Lingerie, and Fantasies | |
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| It's all Fun and Games Until Somebody Loses a Dildo | |
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| The Stuff You Wear Just to Take Off | |
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| Much, Much Better than Parcheesi | |
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| What That Lockable Drawer in Your Nightstand Is For | |
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| "We Tried It!" | |
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| Fantasizing about Things Other Than Shoes and Your Boss's Decapitation | |
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| How to Feel Safe Trying Things Out | |
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| Utilizing Tricks of the Trade-The World's Oldest Trade | |
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| Creating a Sexual Identity | |
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| Superhero Sex | |
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| The Rebel Romance | |
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| The Damsel in Distress and the Knight in Shining Armor | |
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| The Teacher and the Naughty Student | |
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| Is Anal Sex the New Black? | |
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| Turning Your Man from Vanilla to Super Sexy | |
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| Taking the Dirty Back | |
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| Keeping it Healthy and Fun | |
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| I'll See Your Two Weeks of Lawn Mowing and Raise You a Hand Job | |
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| Why Am I Not in the Mood? | |
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| Sex Gone Wrong | |
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| Fixing Things | |
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| The Long Haul | |
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| Fluctuating Trajectories and Other, Smaller Words | |
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| There's No "I" in Team | |
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| Playing the Part | |
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| Sexual Healing and Feeling | |
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| The Physiology of Love | |
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| Resources | |
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| Index | |